My Guy /Gay

"We are all the same in the eyes of GOD"


 2 or 3 weeks ago i heard from my best friend that one of our good friend engaged. As happy as it sound, he engaged with him. yes..is a he not a she. Not in normal way we could possibly think. When the news broke i was shocked trying to digest in my mind how`s that possible.



 Let me tell you about my good friend. I would not share the name but the description why i think he`s a good friend. We go way back to since high school. No, he`s not one of best friend but our circle of friends pretty much the same after high school we went to the same university. We hangout, we party together. as long as i know him, he`s a nice guy, he`s smart, and as far as i remember he don`t have enemies and he has unique face. Then he moved to American soil and stayed for almost 12 years. I also knew that he had a girlfriend. yes. girlfriend and was in on-off relationship until i heard the news from my best friend. 

So, after the news and still in processing how he turned into gay with no sign that me and most of our friend could n`t read i accidentally met him. He was sitting in the corner of restaurant and i came into his table. I almost hesitate because he`s more bigger more muscle --- after 12 years people do have serious physically change. But,i encouraged myself to say hi to him. And he did still recognize me. So we talked for like an hour while waiting for his partner finished gym. In that tights hour i want to dig everything and clarify related to his personal life. And yes... the answer is straight. He now engaged with his partner. when i asked how? why? when? he just laughed. Let me try to put it in bullet points : 
 > Why? He stated : " I don`t know why. it`s just what i`ve been felt and try to deny.
 > How? he stated : " well.. after in state of denial it`s time for me to true to myself "
 >When? he stated: " this year... i told my gf last year that it`s over, for all the person that should know my gf deserved first priority to know".   Then he add " i didn`t met my partner earlier or experienced with someone back in states. We just met and decided to engaged" i asked since it`s a bit shocking to everybody we knew.


 how do you cope with it? how your parents cope ? he said " well..my parents accept me the way i am and as far as i`m concern people so busy with their own business so i don`t really think about what they said" in waiting we laughed talked catching up the good old days trying to accept the fact that my guy friend is now a gay friend then a handsome young fella walked into our table. 

Yes...he`s one of hell a good looking man. like you will see him holding hands with a model or stylish girl. and he is my friend`s partner. Could not be more sad than this. after met with his partner i went upstairs to be catch some breath with my normal peer. (kinda sarcastic isn`t it? ) one thing i learned from him despite that our culture, our society couldn`t accept the fact that gay really do exist is not just appearance - is not about sin that they committed is not about society rejection is about true to yourself. is about waiting the right person in right moment regardless the same sex. 


 On my last word to him before i leave i said" you know what.. i`m happy for you ... i`m happy for you to find and choose your partner in life and i wish you happiness" Happy ending is overrated.

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