a smart woman for a dumb man

Today is full with little surprise
and its not my birthday yet :)

i ran into my old childhood friend
at the gas station, we talked awhile
like for 10 minutes catching up what`s happening in his life.

he showed me his girlfriend which i`m sure we met her somewhere
and he talked about the quality and the expectation of his future in law
and he did his best to be what they wanted to be

then the conversation shift about me and my other friend who apparently still single
he said " this is what happening,put in our perspective as a man, i`m afraid to commit with u. you`re raising the bar. You`re smart,beautiful, and has fascinating career then our kind afraid to commit to the excelence of your needs. This is Indonesia,putri. What happened to a girl or a woman who can cook, nurturing their children,and serve their husband?"

and you know why man tend to cheat? because the stereotype of a picture perfect a woman,simple and dumb. these days woman so smart than a man feels like what about having sex without even has to discuss feeling ( in a harsh way)

but im sure i`m not that a kind of woman, i denied it but look at the truth i can drive alone to other city without a man`s help. gosh....!!

he said" you are too smart,put to be with someone who`s dumb enough understand you"


later on i got text message from my best friend`s wife she wants to introduce me to a guy in saturday morning. i said how morning? me and saturday morning kinda dislike each other :) and what am i doin there anyway??

she said " yeaaaa..well just come by, i`ll introduce you then the rest we can spend the afternoon together, it`s been a while, sis"

after that conversation about raising the bar thingy. i accept the challenge. see.. why i have to refuse the offer just because i hate morning? this is exactly what my friend said earlier i`m too smart to stay in my position right now. every man dreams that their wives wake up early preparing breakfast and here i am refusing the morning just because im too lazy to waste my energy.


i understand now... it`s not how i can`t be the perfect girl for every man dream it`s me refusing to set my bars below them cause i`m too afraid to be the stupid girl for a smart guy.


Thank you to Jimbot + Mira for a quick slap.

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